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Rev. Dr. M. Frances Manning-Fontaine

Senior Pastor / Teacher



PSALM 139:14A

We all have goals, dreams, and a vision for ourselves, for our loved ones and our community. We all want to know that we are dancing with life, doing what has real meaning and passion for us. We want to contribute to the lives of others.

For this we need a...body.  It seems simple and obvious. However, consider the following: your relationship with your body will determine if you are living your life with clarity, focus, ease, and grace., or if instead you are struggling. 

It's often difficult to imagine a relationship with our body, let alone seeing it as part of a success team. However, try this thought experiment.

Imagine you discover that you and your body aren't communicating very well. You seem to get in the way of each other. In your mind, it's an adversarial relationship. So you decide to go take you and your body to a couple's counselor. Stay with me now…LOL

Take a deep breath as you look at the following: what would your body say? If you're like many of us, you might hear:

  • He never rests me enough.
  • She never feeds me right: it's either feast or famine.
  • If I get the slightest pimple he wants to hide me.
  • She's always comparing me to someone else.
  • When she sees me in a mirror she gets a look of disgust.

The question is this: if you were in a relationship with someone who treated you this way, how long would you want to remain in it? Then, why does your body stay with you? 

Look for a moment at the following possibility: your body stays with you because it loves you. It has been your partner since the moment you came into physical reality. It is here with you until you leave. All it has ever wanted is to support you in dancing with your goals and dreams. 

And here is something  that modern science is beginning to discover: this body of ours is composed of trillions of sentient cells that react to your feelings about it. How would you behave toward someone if you knew they loved you enough? You might:

Treat them like your best friend.

  • Want to take care of your body in order to give back what it's giving you.
  • Shift your communication with it from complaint to acknowledgement.
  • Look at how to have fun together.

If this seems too simple, consider this: we spend so much time looking at our defects that we don't experience the partnership that's before us.

It's hard to love your body against the backdrop of all the complaints you've had about it over the years.  However, it becomes easier if you're willing to shift your relationship with your body from adversary to friend. It requires a different perspective, one that can be achieved.